Don’t be a follower

Happy Tuesday everyone, and welcome back to my #TipTuesday of the week! I’m pretty sure most of you have heard the expression and/or been told to NOT be a follower. I, personally, always tell myself to aim to be a leader in this world and to not always do what
others say is best for me. This is definitely a great phrase to apply to everyday life for numerous reasons, BUT dance is about to change that for you.

For the most part, the masculine figure in the [dance] couple is the one who leads in the dance. I say “masculine” rather than “man” or “male” because sometimes dance couples are of the same sex and one of the dancers typically takes over the “masculine/lead” role. Now ladies, I know there are many of you out there who might not be happy with my tip in this article because you have that “I won’t allow a man to tell me what to do” mentality (because I am one of them lol), BUT we need to accept that it’s not always a bad thing to conform with a male’s requests, suggestions, etc…. trust me.

When I first started dancing (with a partner), I wasn’t improving and wasn’t learning new moves because I always wanted to lead and kept my arms stiff. It wasn’t until I joined a salsa/bachata team that I began accepting the constructive criticism given to me, and adhered to the male’s instructions.


If you’re the follower, your arms MUST become spaghetti. By that, I mean: loosen up your arms! This will give the leader the ease to lead you in the dance. AVOID stiffening your arms.


This is probably the most difficult part in dancing with a partner (especially if it’s your first time dancing with him/her). While dancing, it is very important to not only feel the music, but you must also analyze the body movement and direction, to get an idea of what step/movement will be next. Take note of movements that the leader tends to repeat and start memorizing them to make it easier for the both of you. Also, try to feel on which side the leader is putting more of his/her weight because most of the time this is him/her telling you that the next movement/step will go towards that direction.

Moral of the story: turn into spaghetti and read!

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about Christine

My name is Christine, but long story short, most people call me “Kinki” (don’t even go there. Nothing to do with the infamous definition of “kinky.”) My parents come from Mexico, and I was born in Ventura, California. After graduating high school, I moved to the Los Angeles area to study at California State University, Northridge, from where I obtained my Bachelor’s Degree in Communication Studies and a minor in Studio Art.